The One

This is your chance. You take the blue pill - the story ends, you walk away and go back to your life of roguish and destructive relationship tendencies. You take the red pill - you stay in Wonderland, and find out just how far down the rabbit hole this relationship goes.

Because that's what meeting her is like, it's like taking the red pill and waking up from a nightmare. A nightmare of uncertainty, tension, drama, heart ache, and terrible physical chemistry.

She's, "The One".

"The One" makes you feel secure. Not only does she stroke your ever important and regrettably large ego, she also makes sure you know exactly how she feels about you. There aren't any games - You aren't on edge worrying about how she feels, because you can already tell how she feels....and she tells you.

"The One" makes you forget ALL about previous heartbreak, because when you're with her, nothing else matters. She's great - you couldn't ask for, or need anything else. Her company alone is enough to forget that other women even exist.

"The One" has the power to drown out any other options you might have in your life. Other girls you might have liked, or liked you, totally pale in comparison. They slowly become background noise - until you turn them off completely so that you can give your full attention where it starts to matter the most.

"The One" seems perfect in almost every way. Your infatuation blinds you to any and all of their flaws...Nothing they could tell you about their past would make you judge them or hold them in a negative light. You completely accept them for who they are, or want to be.

"The One" makes you consider marriage or a serious relationship, in spite of your vows to live a fast life full of solitude, women, video games, and your dog. You almost can't believe it when the thought of moving in together, or of what you might name your first child crosses your mind. WTF? Have I gone soft?! Yes....Yes, you have.

You don't play the stupid games you used to play with all of the other girls, because you actually care about this one's feelings. In fact, hurting this one would go against everything you stand for as a man. You're supposed to protect and care for women, especially this one if you're going to call her yours.

You jump to her immediate defense when you feel she's in harms way. You're in your right mind to snatch the phone out of her hands and tell the ex that keeps calling with an attitude that you'll gladly remove his tongue if he's not careful...

And even if you're a generally negative person, you don't ever show signs of distress or negativity around her. You want to be strong for her. She should feel like she's able to cast all of her burdens on you, without worry that you can't handle it with all of the other things you've got going on in your life. You want to always be her anchor. If something is wrong, you cry by yourself in the other room - If she can't lean on you, who can she lean on?

"The One", unfortunately, also possesses the extraordinary power to hurt you...It's just the risk you run when you think you've found someone special and you let them in...

I once heard that every pot has a lid. Go find the lid that makes you feel this way. Never settle.

Find "The One"

-Clever Alias

P.S. Obviously the male perspective here...The blog is written by a man, get over it.