Ever heard anyone say, "Chicks dig A-holes"? Or, "Treat a girl like dirt, and she'll stick to you like glue"? Or "Nice guys finish last"? Or......You get the point.
These sayings weren't just made up for no reason by bitter nerds around the world. They hold water, and are validated every time a nice girl tries to start a relationship with one of the douchebags from Jersey Shore.
(He calls himself "The Situation" - Are you Fing kidding me?)
I have two theories here as to why women act like this - They are as follows:
1) You ALWAYS want what you don't/can't have - If you have blonde hair, you wish you were a brunette. If you're short and pale...(*ahem*), you wish you were tall and dark. If your hair is curly, you wish it was straight, etc. SO, if smokin' hot Jersey Shore guy is off the market, or isn't interested in a relationship, or wants to play 'hit it and quit it'...You want him that much more, because he's made himself unavailable, and you can't have him. Which leads us to reason number two...
2) The thrill of the hunt - Chasing a guy who doesn't want you is FUN, right?! You're unsure, you don't know if he really likes you, he's kinda talking to other girls, but no big deal! You can change him, you can make him like you! You're waiting for him to call or text, you're unsure of his every action...He's SO mysterious!
It's o.k. ladies, don't beat yourself up and refer to the title, it's just HUMAN NATURE! We want what we can't have, and don't appreciate things that come easy. We want to have to work for it! This attitude good in all situations besides relationships. Which is why the nice guy who lets you know he likes you, doesn't make you chase him, does nice things for you, "finishes last". He was boring, and easy, it's much more fun to chase the Jersey Shore douche who's just trying to sleep with you.
It is for these reasons you need to act like a JERK to keep a girl interested. The power in every relationship lies with the person who cares the least. Sad huh? If she knows she has you, it's no fun anymore. Women will deny this until they're blue in the face and claim that they just want a 'nice guy', but remember, these sayings didn't come out of nowhere, they're validated every day by their ACTIONS and relentless pursuit of total tool-bag guys who don't care about them.
I challenge you to think back to the relationships where you tried the hardest, or cared the most - They were jerks who weren't even trying weren't they? You were probably embarrassed to tell your friends about them weren't you?
Here's a pretty good representation of the cycle - Thank you PostSecret
(Edited to keep our pg-13 rating of course)
So, the next time you find yourself dating the risky, thrill-seeking, mystery Jersey Shore douche who's talking to 30 other girls along with you, don't even think about calling the nice guy you messed things up with - he'll be too busy getting treated like crap by another girl.
Happy Hunting!
- Clever Alias
2 comments:
Great post! I think you've told me all this stuff numerous times! Oh you boys! ;-)
Good thinking Charlie, however I think there might be one cause you may have overlooked. I think some people have a need to punish themselves and others have such low self esteem that they feel like it's a, kind of pennance being treated badly.
Believe it or not, I learned this is in the casino business. Graveyard is when the sickies come out and I worked that shift for the last 10 years before changing careers. Otherwise intelligent people bring their hard earned money to the casino, allow themselves to be drugged with free drinks, and get broke. When they wake up the next day, they feel remorse and, (here's the sick part)they come back to let the game beat them up again as a sort of atonment. Unfortunately, this is an unending cycle. No wonder my conscience bothered so much for being a party to this.
With regard to women, I think they are raised to feel unworthy. Note how many families have an oldest daughter followed by a son then they quit. They know, in the back of their head that had that son been born first, they might not even be here. In China, they abort them rather than have their only child be a girl. So, there are many women who suffer from low self esteem or the guilt of not being the boy their father really wanted.
Bottom line is, they go for the bad boys because they think they need punishment.
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