We have ANOTHER guest blogger! Here's what The Realist has to say about girls who THINK they have guy friends.
Guys are friends with girls for a few reasons:
- The girl is hot and the guy deep down hopes that eventually they’ll become more than friends.
- The girl has a hot friend that the guy wants. The guy will be really nice and friendly with the ugly friend in order to get in good with the hot friend. The guy hopes that the ugly girl will talk him up to her hot friend.
- Guys know that if they’re out with a group they look less threatening if girls are in the group.
- Sometimes, depending on the activity, girls are necessary to be involved so that the guys don’t appear to be gay. Example: shopping, dancing, going to see a romantic comedy.
- The guy is gay.
- The guy is completely non-sexual. This is very rare, but it does exist. It is usually a front until the guy realizes that he’s gay.
- The guy is too scared to make a move with the girl “friend” so he will remain as the “gay” friend until she makes the move.
- Or, the most rare of the reasons is that he is just a really unselfish guy and cares for nothing more than just a friend because he has perfected the “loving your neighbor” thing.
Girls, this may come as a shock to you, but it’s true. Guys are simple. We want to just find a great girl. At some time in our lives, like you, we’ve been hurt when we’ve put ourselves out there. That’s usually why the guy doesn’t just go for it with you.
Why is it that after you get married 95% your guy friends disappear? Could it be because they know that there really isn’t a chance anymore? The other 5% is divided between the gay, non-sexual, and douche bag group. You will still be friends with the gay and non-sexual guys and your husband will make fun of you for it, but you’ll swear he isn’t gay. The douche bag group (who will be wearing Ed Hardy bedazzled jeans) thinks it would be cool to hook up with a married chick, which you’ll deny until he actually tries or suggests it, and it will all make sense. You’ll remember this rambling and feel stupid, because your husband already told you the same thing over and over and over and again.
This is to the ugly chicks that know they aren’t good-looking: Your guy friends want your hot friends.
To the straight guy that has lots of friends that are girls: Be up front about your intentions and you might have a shot. Honesty works.
To the non-sexual guy: You’re gay and the sooner you realize it, the sooner you can change.
Advice to girls with guy friends that won’t make the move: If you’re interested, let him know.
Great post!! Oh, it's SO true. As a general rule, men and women can never be JUST friends. Didn't we learn anything from "When Harry Met Sally"?!
(Whoooops!)
One will almost ALWAYS develop feelings for the other, it's just human nature. The "friendship" crumbles when one or the other realizes it's never going to happen (or they torture themselves forever!). Their feelings are hurt, it hurts to be around the other person, etc. Even worse is when you lose a good friend because they develop feelings for you, but you're just not into them like that - But what can you do? Blah.
As Kurt Vonnegut would say "So it goes..."
- Clever Alias
6 comments:
I do not necessarily agree with your guest blogger's assessment of all male and female relationships. True, most guys and girls are friends because one is trying to hook up with the other. But I have several male friends that are not gay and not trying to hook up. Frankie (all blog names are used to protect the innocent) is the best example of this. Frankie is by all accounts a very attractive man. I believe the words "Abercrombie Model" have been used to describe him at one time or another. I have absolutely no interest in Frankie, mostly due to prior knowledge of another's interest in him and because he is not really my type. Frankie is friends with me because due to his "Abercrombie" nature, most girls fawn over him to the point where he has to push them all away to ensure they do not get the wrong idea. Frankie and I have a great relationship on a social level, due to our shared interest, and he is who I go to in matters of spirituality. He now has a steady girlfriend, to whom he will probably marry, but he is still a valued friend. The same can be said of several of my other guy friends, AA, Gizmo, etc. I think the nature of male/female relationships can be just as rewarding as same sex relationships just as long as that person truly cares for them as a person, on a level of true friendship. I know I risk being branded naive, but the empirical evidence would seem to suggest a less cynical point of view than the guest bloggers.
Brynn Thomas said:
this is hysterical!! especially the part about ed hardy bedazzled jeans. bahaha.
a few REAL reasons why girls have guy friends.
1. protection from bears, nast drunk guys, bugs, and getting stranded with a flat tire.
2. they can pitch a tent and build a fire.
3. their hot friends. and sweet rides.
4. entertainment. most guys will tell you they hate drama. sooo not true. and sooo fun to watch.
don't you just love how innocent most guys are?? they think WE are the ones being fooled. bahaha just kidding. kinda. :))
Gabriel Olivera said:
I have guy friends! Well, kinda. But that's private and none of your business. :-p
Wow guest blogger is hard on his sex. And has honestly never had a platonic opposite sex relationship with someone other than a family member before? Put the hormones away and get real just for a second.
Of course there are simple rules of boy and girl, but this is quite a general social ultimatum attempting to be claimed on a science that is hardly calculable.
Not that I know anything about it...
This was funny. I'd like to agree with it, but I do see a rarity of guys that are actually friends with girls for no other reason than they enjoy their company. While I've personally been a girl "friend" to boys who turned out to be not what they seemed... and was shocked... I can definitely see how these categories exist. Especially the non-sexual! What is that about? Everyone wants to get with someone, right? OR maybe not...? Or... maybe... ... ......
All you ladies just confirmed just confirmed another stereotype that you only see what you want to see. READ #8. There exceptions to the rule, but you're not the exception!
Love ya
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