There Is No Right Way!

We've all been broken up with at one point or another; it never feels good. But somewhere in the grieving process it seems like there's always some kind of complaint about how the person went about it, or about the time when it occurred. As if they have the perfect way that they'd like to broken up with, and if that person would have just complied this would have all been so much easier!

Guess what...? THERE IS NO RIGHT WAY!

It doesn't matter if it was via text, a phone call or in person. It doesn't matter if it's your birthday, Christmas, New Years Eve, or a Thursday..You're going to label all variables aggravating circumstances so that you can be that much more mad at the person.

Consider the following examples to illustrate my point:

Scenario 1: It's a Wednesday night. You and your significant other just got into ANOTHER "nothing fight". He goes home pissed and thinks long and hard about the relationship. Thursday morning you get a text message, "I just don't think we're happy anymore...We've been through this so many times, I just think it'd be better if we took some time off and started dating other people. Sorry, I don't really wanna discuss it any further." You attempt to call and text message back, but you don't get any replies. It's over.

Scenario 2: Your boyfriend spends the day at work sweating what he knows he's going to come home and tell you. He calls you and tells you he's heading over, and asks if you want him to bring you anything to eat. You accept his offer as always. He brings you some dinner, and a small bundle of flowers from the grocery store. He has a disconcerted look on his face as he walks through the door. You ask him what's wrong, he doesn't respond. He sits you down. He grabs your hand and starts to tear up, "I'm just not happy any more, honey. I'm so sorry. I love you but I can't do this anymore. I'm sorry." (Full tears at this point)...(add in two hours of him trying to explain his feelings) "I want us to stay friends, ok?" "I have to go right now...I think we should take some time to get over it before we try and talk or hang out. I'll miss you." Then gives a big hug and leaves.

Scenario 3: It's Christmas Eve. You're in the middle of a nap when your boyfriend barges into your room and wakes you up. He hands you a video tape and tells you to come downstairs so that you can watch it together. He also grabs you your favorite soda for the show...you pop in the movie. It's just a black screen for a moment, and you start to wonder what it is that he wanted you to watch so badly. Then it starts, it's a home video of him nailing your best friend. You start to cry, he starts to grin. Your throat swells up and you decide you need a drink. Your soda is full of cigarette ashes. He then proceeds to walk out door, and right before it shuts you hear him scream, "And you might wanna get tested!"... Followed by a hearty chuckle. You never hear from him again.

Now, you probably found yourself bending and twisting all the scenarios, disagreeing with actions or statements here and there... "Well, if he didn't do THAT...didn't say THIS...didn't WHATEVER...then it woulda been better.."

Are you starting to see my point? There IS no right way... Every scenario sucks because it's a crappy situation and you don't wanna be broken up with!

There's no right time, place, or circumstance...it's a suckfest all around.

Deal with it.

- CleverAlias

P.S. While there may not be a right way, I'm pretty sure there ARE wrong ways...Like scenario 3...don't do that, it's mean.