Color Coded Soul Mates

Why are break ups so hard? It feels like there's an elephant standing on your chest!

(Ok, it's not his chest, but you can feel it here too...)

In the end, you start thinking about the beginning. You look at old photos of good times and tears well up, you get that throat closed up feeling... Things were so great! We were having so much fun! What happened?! Where did I go wrong?! What did I do?!

The answers to these questions are irrelevant - the fact is, it's over, and you just have to do your best to pull up the big boy huggies and look for happiness in another place.

Part of the reason it hurts so much is because you can't see into the future. You can't see that next great person waiting for you or the great things in your life to come. You're stuck in the past, worrying about the one you lost meeting someone else and being happy. Worrying whether or not they're still thinking about you. Worrying that this feeling is going to be forever...but you CAN'T let your happiness be dependent on what they're doing, you have to create your OWN happiness - completely independent of their actions.

Wouldn't color coded soul mates be so much easier? It would be uncomplicated and absolute - You'd walk into a crowded area, each person would have a colored aura around them; then you'd simply find the one that has the same color as you! Voila! Eternal happiness in seconds! It's too bad things aren't that easy...

A friend of mine took the time to consider my proposal. She noted that there would still be complications. "There are just too many variations of a certain color in the hue," she says. Even if you found that charming, periwinkle stud muffin, it would be likely that his shade of periwinkle wouldn't quite match yours - you just wouldn't be able to tell the difference. Crappy huh?

(Ahhhhh, that's more like it...)

But we must not be afraid. We have to love like we've never been hurt - If we walk around guarded and closed off, we'll NEVER be happy. All we can do is get back on the horse and hope that the next person we hand our heart to takes good care of it!

Hang in there!

-Clever Alias